Saturday, March 21, 2009

I do not know what to say, for i know whatever i say will be deemed as excuses, selfish perspectives and etc.

Mutual understanding and fairness. These 2 aspects, i believe, are the rocks of marriage. Without mutual understanding, trust and cohesion can never take place. Without fairness, unwillingness will surface between couples to respect and love each other totally.

When a man fulfils his paternal role and a woman fulfils her maternal duty in a marriage/family, harmony can then be more possible. However,in today's world, things have changed.Man and wife's family roles have been interwoven and become more complex. Nowadays men help out more in domestic affairs, while women get more involved in their careers. Is this against nature? Definitely not! Evolution is necessary and inevitable,and will never diminish the importance of mutual understanding and fairness in marriage.

Marriage is a "forever" matter. Once decided, irreversible.Hence, I must ensure that my marriage will not have problems of mutual distrust and unfair treatment towards either of us. I expect these 2 factors to be firmly established in my relationship even before marriage.

After all, i am a human born by God's grace and have emotions bestowed by Him. I am not perfectly understanding and tolerant, and definitely do not have a perfect and selfless love for others, including my loved ones. I only hope that love can be reciprocated equally to the extent that i had displayed towards my loved ones. I only wish to be fairly treated and understood of my concerns.

Sorry for today's incident. I love u darling.

Posted by Hans En at 12:37 AM